Do not...

Much of our ministry is pervaded with judgements. Often quite unconsciously we classify our people as very good, good, neutral, bad, and very bad. These judgements influence deeply the thoughts, words, and actions of our ministry. Before we know it, we fall into the trap of self-fulfilling prophecy. Those whom we consider lazy, indifferent, hostile, or obnoxious we treat as such, forcing them in this way to live up our own views. And so, much of our ministry is limited by the snares of our own judgements. These self-created limits prevents us from being available to people and shrivel up our compassion. 

"Do not judge and you will not be judged yourselves" is a word of Jesus that is indeed very hard to live up to. But it contains the secret of a compassionate ministry.

"To die to one's neighbor is this. To bear your own faults and not to pay attention to anyone else wondering whether they are good or bad. Do no harm to anyone, do not think anything bad in your heart towards anyone, do not scorn the man who does evil, do not put confidence in him who does wrong to his neighbor, do not rejoice with him who injures his neighbor... Do not have hostile feelings towards anyone and do not let dislike dominate your heart." 

The way of the heart, Henri Nouwen